There are a lot of good pick up places in Metro Manila but lately I have been clubbing for the last few weeks primarily in Timog, Quezon City(coz that's nearest from my place). What can I say, I found out that there are quality women in those places I've been to. Most of the time I went out alone and these encounters had been a learning experience for a beginner like me.
Being a natural shy, I have been conditioning myself to be comfortable around women. It wasn't my style to approach women and introduce myself. I tend to overcomplicate things when I start thinking of approaching a woman. But fear sets in and worse I cannot do anything. Think about it as paralysis by analysis. I have been reading the book "The Game". And that book inspired me to change my way of thinking. I tried approaching women and I have had my share of rejections.
To be rejected is appalling to most people. Who wants to be rejected anyway? I grew accustomed to playing it safe and not let some woman reject me and step on my pride. I used to prefer that someone, like a friend or family, would just introduce me to some nice girl they know.
But this time, I want to seek out on my own. I had been overcome by the fear of rejection long enough. And this time, I am changing my mindset. To live with rejections is a bitter pill to swallow at first. But once you get to swallow it, you will feel better in time :)
Good thing I am not getting rejected all the time. Those rejections have made me better in conditioning myself to be comfortable around women.
Here's what I have learned, on being rejected and it's not all about ME
- my approach makes her uncomfortable because I look as if I am spying on her (I think).
- some women doesn't really want to meet some men in the club.
- some women are too young, could be between 18 to 20 years of age, who are too afraid of men approaching them.
- some women doesn't care at all.
Just like what athletes do in preparing to be the best, conditioning is a must too to be able to reach out to women. If a woman rejected my approach, I just say ok, have a good night, have fun, and move on to the next target.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
2 comments:
precisely my man, do not let rejection get in your head. and besides "rejection" is an unfitting word, more like "not right now"; one of the challenges, as you would encounter - is to turn a missed opportunity (from being rejected by the girl) to gold (to coming back to her and wooing her when you do) - toughest one for me b/c bilang pinoy pag nareject parang dahon lang ng makahiya na hindi na bubuka ulit. practice practice practice :)
it's still tough to be rejected. but i don't take it seriously now than ever. to approach a woman, is already an opportunity. i think it will be harder for me if i will let that slip by. as you said, practice practice practice. still a long way to go, but well worth the experience :)
Post a Comment